Drummers can make...or break...a band or a song the same as any other member of the band.
I think that puts us all on equal ground.
With the exception of a couple of genres (bluegrass, folk..), just have them listen to the contribution made by the percussionist, or percussion section.....just see how prominent our intrument is.
Make or break? yes....NOW...just WHAT were you horn players calling me?